Monday, January 23, 2006

Pregnant but not married

Sneaked out for lunch date with a friend P today at MegaMall. Waliow eh, weekday somemore its already 2pm still so packed and no parking you know... We have to round and round for sometime then only can get parking leh.

We had lunch at Dome Cafe and as usual, I will order nothing but the chicken pie... So does everyone else (me, P and her friend whom so happened to be there-so i belanja also la cos i also know her). When the pie came I regretted for not ordering their pasta... (cos the pasta next table ordered looks much more tastier) cheh, next time la.

So during lunch we gossip about work and the coming CNY holiday and greatest gossip of all is.... A friend of P got pregnant!!! No boyfriend and not married but pregnant. She is from Tawau so can you imagine if you are pregnant in such a small town, its like the whole town will know!!! Gosh.... this girl (lets call her A), is quite sad as nobody understands her condition and she has no choice but to come to KL to stay with the brother cos the parents is too sad and A has got lots of pressure from the family...... (you know la, where can parents accept daughter got pregnant in such surprised mode one)

Came to know that she got pregnant with a man ... not any man but a married man. Sigh, she is actually really brave to get pregnant as she is very vulnerable cos in another word, you are a mistress!!!

But, I think everyone has got thier own thinking. I mean, if A has got the courage to face the world with a baby...... we must also support her in any way. Nobody wants to be criticise for the decision that they made which other people finds it inappropriate, right?

I am still thinking about A say after she gave birth cos the planned to give birth in KL, confinement how leh, how to take care of the bb if she works leh...

I think all will fall into place when things come............

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

The man responsible will have to support the baby financially then. Be it sending the child to the nanny or hiring a maid to look after the baby, the man has to chip in something, not just his sperm. :|

Anonymous said...

must say this A is indeed in very deep sh*t!!! i admire her guts to keep her baby and agree with zara's mama, the man has to take some responsible...it's not right to "makan" and "cabut"...

Anonymous said...

Why must she face this alone? The man leh? Really hate those married guys who flirt around but have no guts to take responsibilities when sh*t happens. I think that's a hotline for unmarried single mothers, and they provide counselling and help. Hopefully she can find some understanding ears and shoulders.

Oscar's Mommy said...

aiya... the man once he knew she pregnant, MIA liow lor. but how big is tawau? can find one if A wants to korek him out. thank you all on behalf of A for being supportive and on her side.